So I went to pick up the kids from school today. While I was waiting for them to come to the car, I watched Alexis walk down the side walk across the street from me. She's was going to the corner to cross to come to the car. As she walked, the girls who keep bullying her ran up behind her and one of them threw something at her. It hit Lexi's backpack and fell to the ground. As the girl went to pick it up, I got out of the car and crossed the street. She motioned to throw it again, as I heard the othe girl yell something like throw it this way or throw it again. I yelled out to stop her because I didn't know what they were throwing and I wanted them to stop. The girls looked at me and as I approached them I said that that was totally inappropriate and I took the girl who threw the object by the arm to take her with me to the principal. As I took her arm, I said let's go see the principal and motioned for the other girl to come too. She kept on walking and said she didn't do anything. I said yes you did, come on let's go and motioned again for her to come. Then she started to run away yelling you ain't gonna touch me, you ain't gonna touch me. Then the other girl ran too and I turned to go to the principal and behind me I heard the girls saying did she touch you? Did she touch you? We're going to tell? I went into the school and waited for the principal and told her what I had witnessed. She's already dealt with these girls many times before, and I could tell she was frustrated. I asked if there was any way I could talk to their parents. The principal said she couldn't give me their numbers, but she could call them and give them mine. So I went into the office with her and waited for her to call the mothers. The first one she got ahold of was on her way to work and said she'd call me tomorrow. She appologized to the principal and asked her to pass the message on to me. Then she called the other mother and the principal assured me that that mother would call too. The principal was very sorry and tried to console me, but I could tell she was at her wits end with these girls too. When I got to the car, Alexis told me that she heard one of the girls say that I hit her. This was the girl that ran away from me saying that I wasn't going to touch her. I don't know how I was suppose to have hit her if I didn't even touch her.
When I got home there was a call on the caller I.D. that said private name but there was no message on the machine. It may have been the one mother, but I don't know. If it was, I wonder if she'll try to call back. She didn't even appologize over the phone to the principal. I'm not even sure what I'll say to them if they call anyway. I just didn't know what else to do. I want the mothers to know how frustrated I am and how much this is effecting Alexis. I think I'm going to ask them if they have any idea why their girls have singled out Alexis. I really hope that I don't get accused of abuse. It will be my word against theirs because, although there were many people around, I'm sure I won't be able to find anyone in specific who was watching and could back up my story. I suppose this could get ugly. I shouldn't even have touched the one girl in the first place, but I didn't even think about it. It was just natural for me to take her arm to take her with me. I hope this doesn't turn out to be a lesson I learn the hard way. I'm so frustrated with this whole thing. Why can't Alexis just go to school and have a good time and experience? Why does there have to be kids there who pick on her? I mean yesterday someone hocked a loogie on her backpack. Of course she didn't see who it was because she had put the bag down to go play on the playground just before school got out, so we can't even get that person in trouble. But jeez, spitting on someone's stuffs, come on! AHHHHH!
Thanks for letting me vent.
3 comments:
Oh, my heart hurts for her! That is horrible, I'm so sorry! I can't imagine it being too much of a problem if the principal will vouch that the kids have been a lot of trouble in the past. I feel so badly for Lexi, I hope she's handling it ok. Jason said he hated elementary school for the same reason, because he was shy and was picked on. How sad for her!
What sort of disciplinary action has been taken with these girls? It sounds like they are running the show, not the other way around. I hope you get to talk to their mothers and make sure they are aware of the problem at home. Poor Alexis. She's such a great kid. It's too bad the bullies can't take two seconds to see that. Give her an extra hug from us.
I'm not sure what disciplinary actions have been taken with these girls. I did talk to one of the mothers lastnight. She was very appologetic and said that her daughter is grounded and will continue to loose priveledges if she doesn't change her ways. I asked her to find out why her daughter doesn't like Alexis and let me know if there is anything we can do to help with that. I also suggested that maybe she just tell her daughter to just ignore Alexis if she doesn't like her. That way they can both avoid each other and hopefully keep peace. The mom said she wants to talk to her daughter about being a good influence on her friends too, which we would appreciate. I think I'm going to give it a couple weeks and if things don't improve I'm going to ask the school to move Alexis to a different classroom where these girls aren't. But maybe things will turn around and I won't have to do that. I'm not holding my breath though. These girls have been picking on Alexis most of the year and I don't really feel like it will change. I just hope Alexis doesn't have a worse retribution because I got involved.
Thanks for all your love and support. I will pass it on the Lexi.
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